IFS Self-Therapy: How to Start Internal Family Systems Parts Work on Your Own, Safely
What Internal Family Systems (IFS) is, how to start parts work alone with the six Fs, what research shows, and when to see a therapist.
Research-based · Survivor-written · Gentle
Your childhood looked fine. So why do you still feel unseen?
Clear, evidence-based help for adults healing from childhood emotional neglect, anxious attachment and OCD. Practical workbooks and free printables from Levi G. Wilder, a researcher and survivor (not a therapist).
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The workbooks
The Emotional Neglect Workbook
Evidence-Based Skills to Name Your Feelings, Meet Your Needs, and Finally Feel Seen After a Childhood of Emotional Neglect
For adults who grew up with their physical needs met but their feelings unseen. Learn to name emotions, ask for help without guilt, quiet the inner critic and build the self-care you never got, step by step and backed by research.
Loved but Never Seen
The Anxious Attachment Workbook for Adults Who Grew Up Emotionally Neglected
Evidence-based skills to stop overthinking, calm relationship anxiety and feel secure in love, including a 30-day practice.
The IFS Workbook for OCD
A Self-Led Internal Family Systems Guide to Intrusive Thoughts and Compulsions, Using Parts Work, Self-Compassion and ERP
Pairs exposure and response prevention (ERP), the first-line psychological treatment for OCD, with Internal Family Systems parts work and self-compassion. Second edition, revised for 2026.
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